How To Let Go and Enjoy Life… Even When Things Don’t Go Your Way

youth-active-jump-happy-40815Sometimes life flows effortlessly and easily and we feel content with everything working out exactly as we’d like it to, and other times things don’t go as planned– they sometimes even seem to go OPPOSITE from what we’d desire.  Some of us are more adept to going with the flow, but others of us really enjoy “cruise directing”– trying to control the outcomes of all experiences.  No matter where we fall, we ALL experience events in our lives going differently than we had hoped, planned or thought.  So how exactly do we find the space to let go, allow and EMBRACE things as they are, even when it isn’t what we have “planned”?  Better yet, how do we learn to ENJOY and maintain PEACE within ourselves during these moments just the way we do when things are going “our way”?

Here are 4 ways to Let Go and Enjoy Life even when things don’t go as planned:

  1. Breathe.  You are alive.  Your breath is moving through you with out you making plans about it.  We have a lot to learn from our breath.  If you stopped breathing, I assure you nothing else would matter.  So when you find yourself frustrated because things are not going as you’d like them to, bring yourself back to your breath.  Take a breath in through your nose for a count of 4 and then release out of your mouth slowly for a count of 8.  (As you blow out, feel free to utilize a shhhh sound as if you are a balloon releasing it’s air, vocalize a deep, low opening tone.  Make sure that you fully release all air, so much so that your breath in is buoyant and easy.) Use this practice to “reset” your natural breath flow.  As you breathe out, see your frustration leaving your body– whatever that may look like to you.  (I see all of my heavy, negative energies leaving the body as a dark cloud that dissipates as it enters the atmosphere, feel free to create your own visualization that feels good.)  When you breathe in, breathe in the feelings of love, life, and blessings– whatever that looks like to you.  (Oftentimes I visualize gold, or pink light entering into my being– right into my heart space– filled with love.)  Continue to focus on your breath to bring yourself back to center.  Don’t strain or put pressure on yourself to breathe a certain way, that is not the purpose of this exercise.  Instead, use the counting method to slow, “reset” and let it go once you feel a natural, easy flow of breath through your body.  Enjoy being alive.  Enjoy the way your body breathes itself, whether or not you think about, plan or control it.
  2. Don’t Resist.  Resisting the “negative” feelings only exasperates them.  Instead, allow them to be there.  Allow yourself to feel them.  It is natural.  It is human.  It is normal to experience frustration, disappointment, discouragement.  Allow these things to FLOW through.  Don’t dwell in these spaces, but allow them to run their course.  If we allow them to run through, they simply run out.  If we avoid or try to change or suppress them, they get “bottled up” only to bubble up during the next opportunity– but this time, stronger.  So allow whatever you are feeling to flow through.  Give it time to run it’s course, and focus on your breathing instead of the sensations it may be causing in your body.
  3. Practice Gratitude.  This step falls perfectly behind the last, because as we allow the feelings we have to flow through, we can then begin to shift them through gratitude.  One of the absolute quickest and easiest ways to shift your energy, is to be grateful.  Even when things go differently than we’d hoped, there is always something to be grateful for, always.  You can start simple; being grateful for your breath, your body, your loved ones, your eyes, ears, nose, all of your sensations.  Then, your clothing, shoes, living circumstances– being alive, the whole world available to you to wander if you please…  As you begin to look for things to be grateful for, more will show up.  I find when I do this, it is hard to stop finding MORE to be grateful for.  And instead of feeling sorry for myself, I begin to see how absolutely blessed I am simply to exist.  Talk about an easy and immediate paradigm shift.  I have even learned to be grateful for whatever is happening– even when my ego-self (the judgmental, personalized self) perceives it as “bad”.  For I have learned that the things I thought were “bad” always ended up supporting my absolute highest good! (Refer to my previous post “The Negatives ARE Positive” for more.)  Shift your attitude to gratitude and watch things shift right before your eyes.
  4. Surrender and Accept.  The last step is to surrender your preference to have things be any different than they are, and then to accept them AS THEY ARE.  Once you have shifted into gratitude, this step becomes a lot easier.  You can always choose this step at any time, but often I find that it can be difficult to let go and to accept things when I still believe they are “bad”.  This step works through realizing that whatever the experience is, you can CHOOSE to be just fine with it.  That is where we find peace: in TRUSTING the process of life.  The Universe gives us exactly what we need to learn, grow, and evolve into peaceful, loving beings– and sometimes that means having troublesome events take place in order for us to practice trust, gratitude, opening our minds and hearts and letting go of our own beliefs and preferences.  The only time things seem “bad” is when we have chosen to perceive them as such.  If we can surrender that perception, and accept what life is offering us, instead, we shift ourselves into peace.  Peace is the ability to be completely content, no matter what is going on in the “outside” world.  We CAN be happy no matter what if we simply choose to surrender our resistance to ALLOWING ourselves to be happy because our perception sees something as “bad” or “wrong”.  Surrender your perceptual judgment, and accept what IS, and you will find yourself back in the space of peace and enjoyment– ready for the next adventure life is taking you on.
  5. BONUS– Don’t Take Life So Seriously.  Humor and light heartedness are such incredible tools for enjoying life– no matter what happens.  When you are able to laugh at life and take everything with a light heart, things become lighter.  Although we must honor all of our emotional experiences, when we are able to laugh we open up a brand new perspective, just like we do with gratitude.  Finding space to laugh and see your ego drama for what it is will transform your experiences from “bad” to fun.  For example–  I needed to make extra income FAST and found myself with a job helping with some landscaping.  For a while I was so upset and “hated” doing the work– it seemed gruesome and awful from the lens I was seeing it through.  One day I was talking to my brother about it and immense laughter and joy overcame me, “I’ve been throwing a fit about making the extra income that I need.  That is so funny!  I have been so upset about making more money and being able to help this person when they needed it!!!”  I found the humor in my egos drama– realizing that even though it wasn’t the work I “wanted” it was the income I needed and it came at the exact perfect time!  I was able to shift from frustration to gratitude for being able to help this family friend AND make the income I needed.  Doing the work became enjoyable as I played in the mud and dug up weeds– my inner child LOVED it.  The moral of the story is: Find the space to find the fun in life, whatever it may bring your way. ūüėÄ 

Life is really an adventure.  The “ups and downs” can be seen as fun twists and turns instead of grueling, painful changes to our original plan.  Trust Your Highest Journey.  Trust that all things in life are created for your highest evolution, joy and peace, and then allow yourself to experience them that way.  Next time you find yourself feeling down due to a shift in your plans, practice these four steps and I assure you that you will begin to see the changes in your life as gifts, not disappointments!

 

Do you have any tips or tricks on how you like to cope with things changing or going differently than you’d hoped?  Leave comments below and join in!  This process is super helpful during pregnancy, labor/birth and parenting experiences.  If you or someone you know is looking for more guidance on how to successfully and joyfully navigate the parenthood journey (pre-conception through parenthood), please visit http://www.birthpurpose.com to learn more and get in touch with me for coaching sessions and full-service doula care in Denver, Co and BEYOND!  And don’t forget to subscribe here https://birthpurpose.wordpress.com/contact/ to get updates and fun tips, tricks, meditations and more!

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The Beginning of Life (Docuseries) 

I recommend The Beginning of Life docuseries on Netflix to all of those interested in learning about healthy beginnings for children. 

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Yay! It’s That Time Again! New Book Up On The Reading List!

22319959Enjoy my description of this absolutely life-changing book! ¬†Don’t wait to go pick a copy up for yourself so that you can experience a wonderful, growth-filled life.¬†Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

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We Are Not Victims of Our Genes: Epigenetic’s and the Biology of Belief with Bruce Lipton

Please enjoy the following podcasts which are interviews with Bruce Lipton, a pioneer in Epigenetics.  Learn how our beliefs shape our lives more than our genetic blueprint!

bruce-lipton-quote-3How Changing Your Thoughts Can Literally Change Your Life

How Pregnancy Influences Your Child’s Genes / Epigenetics

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The “Negatives” ARE Positive.

How can that be? ¬†Well, because inherently everything is created for your growth, healing and highest good. ¬†What makes the difference between something being “negative” and something being “positive”? It is simply our perception of the experience that makes the difference. ¬†For example, one person may find the laughter of children to be “annoying” and a nuisance getting in the way of their television program, while another perceives the same laughter as a beautiful sound of joy and a reminder of their grandchildren and children. ¬†The only difference is the perception and the choice of how to see and experience it.

The same goes for ALL things. ¬†However, many of us have deeply embedded belief systems that cause us to believe that things are either “good” or “bad” and that there is no other way to see the things we have chosen to be “good” or “bad”, “favorable” or “unfavorable”, “achievable” or “unachievable”, “preferable” or “not preferable”. ¬†It isn’t that we CAN’T see things differently, but rather that we WON’T see them differently. ¬†There is a “payoff” in staying low and being a victim to the world– you get to receive pity from yourself and others, you get to complain all day long about your awful circumstances, if you’re really lucky you get your significant other to dote on you because you’re “in a bad mood” and you get to go off on people and be mean to them simply because YOU “feel bad” (which is your choice). ¬†But in the grand scheme of things, none of this contributes to the actual solving of your perceived problem, in fact it only contributes to the expansion of it. And who decided that your experience was so awful anyway? ¬†Only you. ¬†You did. ¬†And you can also choose to see it differently.

In my own experience, I have learned this many times over. ¬†MANY.TIMES.OVER. ¬†For the majority of my life I was unable to take responsibility for myself and my emotions, and consistently blamed others for how¬†I FELT and experienced the world. ¬†The game of finding something to point a finger at about my “awful” experiences– be it my physical health, my location, other people, what other people said or did, my job– literally ANYTHING other than myself– became normalized for me. ¬†My life was a roller coaster of drama created by my own perceptions and inability to take responsibility. Eventually I realized that only I have power over how I experience my life– no matter what takes place within it. ¬†How did I learn this?

My journey began when the impending dark hole within me was unable to be filled by my constant grasping outside of myself and blame games.  It became increasingly deep and I could no longer ignore the suffering I was experiencing.  By way of what I would call Divinity, or Divine Order, I came into a phase of my life where I learned the psychology of taking responsibility and letting go of the restРSURRENDER.  A long journey it has been, indeed, but I have never and will never look back.  Beginning with learning the principles of Buddhism and Quantum Physics, I started to see very clearly that the world each of us sees is truly just inside of our heads, and that what we focus on expands.  To make this relational, remember the different reactions to the children laughingРthe differences are only inside of our mindsРthere is nothing more or less real about either of the perceptions except that once we choose them, that is what we see.  This is a scientific and divine lawРtaught throughout the ages, now backed by evidence-based FACTS.

Accepting this is usually the hardest part. ¬†Mostly because, again, we don’t want to take responsibility and be in control of our lives. ¬†We don’t want to admit to ourselves that the life we’re living is of our making. ¬†But, eventually we have no choice. ¬†Oftentimes people only begin to wake up to this Reality when they literally have no other options– when the hole is so deep and so insurmountable that they no longer can ignore that they are unable to heal it alone. ¬†I went through this myself, as most people do when they reach the turning point in their lives that shifts the perspective from “victim” to “creator/power”. ¬†After discovering Buddhism and Quantum Physics, I discovered A Course In Miracles, which is very similar. ¬†The basis of A Course In Miracles is FORGIVENESS. ¬†We must simply forgive all of our perceptions of things, and in doing so, we become free.

You see, we are not free when we are tied to anything outside of ourselves. ¬†We are a slave to the world if we think anything happening “out there” is going to be the cause of our happiness. ¬†The reality is that we must choose to be happy, and then the outer world will only reflect happiness. ¬†Things may not ever change on the “outside”, but you recognize this world and all that is within it as transient–temporary– and you find peace within your True Self. ¬†Your True Self is the part of you within that is infinite and unchangeable, always there awaiting your rediscovery of it, guiding you to true joy. ¬†Once we are in touch with this True Self, it doesn’t matter what the “outside” stuff looks like. ¬†We no longer wish to control or change anything, but rather to trust and have faith and enjoy the ride. ¬†There is so much FREEDOM in the ability to let go and to choose to be happy NOW.

Why would you suspend your happiness to a later time? ¬†My dear, you want happiness NOW. ¬†I know it, you know it, everyone knows it. ¬†No one wants to wait for happiness, we all would have it right now if it were up to us…. ¬†SO GOOD THING IT IS!!! ¬†Your happiness is all up to YOU. ¬†This can be seen as POWERFUL or as fearful. ¬†Maybe you¬†don’t want to take¬†responsibility for your own happiness. ¬†Maybe you were¬†waiting for someone else to bop you on the head with happiness or for some outside event to take place that just magically makes you happy, but that is never going to happen, ever. ¬†You have to do the work yourself, and you have to choose happiness for yourself– in each¬†moment, in each experience, emotion, event and circumstance. ¬†It really doesn’t matter how grave and dire and depressing it seems, your seeing it that way is only your choice.¬†

The reason it seems so difficult to come to this realization is because we have a part of ourselves that I refer to as the ego. ¬†You may call this what you’d like, but I strongly advise you to acknowledge it’s existence. ¬†It is the part of you that loves feeling bad, that loves judging, being mean and talking about people, that loves to fail and be miserable “OH WOE IS ME”. ¬†Yes, this exists in you and you KNOW it, whether you accept that or not, however, is your choice. ¬†This part of ourselves would like for us to stay under it’s manipulative power more than learning of True Power because once we begin to see True Power, the ego begins to die. ¬†We no longer want to give our energy to suffering and infinite darkness, we would rather experience happiness and joy so we begin to do what it takes to reach that, which threatens the ego’s existence. ¬†This is why it SEEMS so hard to change and grow past old patterns of belief. ¬†The part of yourself that LOVES to suffer does not want you to feel good, so it tries to prevent that by extending “bad moods” and “annoying people and circumstances” to try and enlist a reaction from you and to get you to remain it’s slave.

But as you will begin to see, none of these moods are inherently “bad” and none of these experiences are inherently “annoying”, only your perception of them has created that image for you. ¬†Every single thing that we experience can either be seen in light of growth, expansion and power or in the darkness of victimhood/forcefulness. ¬†When something “undesirable” happens to me, my FIRST reaction is to be upset and play victim, but if I take a moment to step back and see it just a little more clearly I can see that these times are grand opportunities for growth to put these truths into practice. ¬†So, for example, a break up with someone can be seen as total heartbreak and a loss of a will to live (because you put the source of your life/happiness outside of yourself and into the relationship), or it can be seen as an opportunity to learn more about yourself, to grow yourself and learn to love yourself better (because you see the source of your happiness as coming from within and you take responsibility for being happy). ¬†The reason the event takes place is ALWAYS for your Highest Good, ALWAYS. ¬†Even in the event of a loss or a trauma that seems devastating, there is a great OPPORTUNITY to heal and grow through it.

Nothing that we experience is actually “negative”. ¬†All “negatives” are really positives because they are a part of your experience, created to help you evolve and overcome. ¬†What would life be if we never had opportunities to grow and put these lessons into action– to make our dreams (of happiness, peace, love) come true? ¬†How else would we ever do better? ¬†We simply need to trust the process of the events of our lives. ¬†When I dedicated myself to patience, BOY I had a lot of opportunities to practice PATIENCE. ¬†And again when I dedicated myself to unconditional love, I had multitudes of experiences where it would have been so “easy” to hold a grievance instead of forgiving and loving anyway. ¬†And when I committed to peace, I experienced immeasurable opportunities to practice peace. ¬†Through another lens these opportunities could’ve been seen as “doom”. ¬†I could’ve chosen to be victim and to allow the circumstances to control me, but instead I chose power and I learned to control my perception of the circumstances. ¬†With out these experiences, though, I never would have learned ACTUAL patience, ACTUAL unconditional love, and ACTUAL peace, I never would have found ACTUAL happiness. ¬†I simply would have missed the lesson time and time again and maintained a victim consciousness. ¬†Instead, I chose to overcome, and I do so every time something “disturbs my peace”. ¬†I have learned to relish in any opportunity to practice peace, perseverance, faith and love.

If something doesn’t work out the way you envisioned it to, it is simply because there is an outcome more suitable to your happiness to come– something you are unable to see yet because you’re so focused on YOUR idea of how things “should” be. ¬†We can block and limit ourselves by believing only a certain outcome will bring us joy. ¬†Once we open up to ALL possibilities and once we heal old belief systems that are creating unwanted outcomes, we are able to receive the one that is best for us. ¬†We have to be open to seeing the “bigger picture” and to trusting our journey. ¬†This begins with the choice to realize that a simple change in perception is all it takes to see life as a miracle instead of a mess.

Your innermost beliefs are what create your reality, so what are you CHOOSING to believe? ¬†What “negative” circumstances in your life could be seen as wonderful OPPORTUNITIES to heal? ¬†In what ways are you saying “I can’t” when it’s really “I won’t”? ¬†In what areas of your life can you shift your consciousness from apathy, guilt, anger and jealousy and into love, grace, peace and joy? ¬†Forgive yourself for creating a suffering world, and take the power back by choosing to consciously create a happy, loving, peaceful one.

“Loving people live in a loving world. ¬†Hostile people live in a hostile world. ¬†Same world.” -Dr. Wayne Dyer.

What sort of world do you want to live in?

Stay tuned for a follow up blog about HOW TO TURN YOUR NEGATIVES INTO POSITIVES!!!!

Please comment and share your own stories of overcoming “negatives” to see a positive! ¬†What practices do you use to help keep your mind “in check”? ¬†Remember to share this post if you love it! ¬†This practice is SUPER useful during the parenthood journey. ¬†If you or someone you know is looking for more help or guidance on how to thrive along the family journey (from pre-conception to parenthood) please visit http://www.birthpurpose.com to learn more. ¬†And make sure you subscribe to receive practical tips, tricks, meditations and more by entering your email here¬†https://birthpurpose.wordpress.com/contact/¬†! ¬†Thank you so much for reading.

Love,

Muriel

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UPDATE: New Read Up On the Reading List

“Letting Go: The Pathway Of Surrender” by Dr. David R. Hawkins. ¬†Please enjoy a quick review and recommendation for this book– one of my all-time favorites. ¬†Truly Transformational. ¬†https://birthpurpose.wordpress.com/reading-list/

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Why You Don’t Need To Wait Until It’s “Safe” To Talk About Your Pregnancy

woman-1922353_1920Many¬†women are told not to share their pregnancy news with others until they are “in the clear”– far enough along in pregnancy to be “safe” from the risk of miscarriage (typically after the first trimester, or the first 10-12 weeks of pregnancy). ¬†But why do we feel that talking openly about miscarriage is a “bad” thing? ¬†What is the point of hiding our news? ¬†Is it really all that helpful to us not to have the support of others in the event of a miscarriage? ¬†Is our first trimester of pregnancy not as important as the others? ¬†Do we not need support and guidance early on just the same as we may in the later trimesters? ¬†This practice is old paradigm, built from fear instead of love and it’s time to let it go.

One of my first clients ended up miscarrying in her 16th week of pregnancy. ¬†For those that are unaware, that is past the “safe zone” many women stick to (which takes place around 12 weeks). ¬†The experience of this was transformational both for her, and for me as a doula, because I learned the power and importance of having loving, immense support during the aftermath of such a loss. ¬†I walked into the hospital to see an entire room full of loved ones, all there to support this woman through what felt like a horrible tragedy. ¬†My immediate reaction was to thank every single person in the room for being there to bring laughter and light during what could have been seen as a completely dark and devastating time. ¬†She wasn’t alone when she experienced her loss, and that made so much more sense than a woman going through it alone (or solely with her partner), and her healing began immediately. ¬†Why is it that in the case of a loss in (almost) any other circumstance we would find it completely normal, and likely expected, to have loved ones near to help us cope, but in the case of a miscarriage we think that we should be quiet?

Let’s also discuss how important support during the first trimester is. ¬†A lot of times, the first trimester is very tough for women as their hormones are thrust into new waves and their body begins to grow new life. ¬†These profound changes take place remarkably quick; physical, emotional, spiritual and mental transformations begin the instant you become pregnant. ¬†Why should women have to bare these times alone, or with little help? ¬†Why do we not find support in the early months of pregnancy as important as support when a woman is farther along? ¬†I have news for you, it is VERY important to have support AS SOON AS you become pregnant; the first trimester is not an exception to feeling loved, helped, supported, guided, and cared for. ¬†Your hormones don’t wait until month three to let you know you’re pregnant, your baby doesn’t wait until then to start growing, therefor, there is no need for you to wait to be pregnant or to honor your need for support.

In a previous blog I discussed the importance of choosing who is part of your birthing experience, and emphasized that we must be wise with whom we want to share our news with, and this is really what should be expressed about sharing your news with others.  It is not a bad thing to share your news early on, in fact, you will likely experience a happier, healthier pregnancy by having support from the very beginning, and in the case of a miscarriage you will have a strong support system ready to carry you through.  What you may want to consider, instead, is who you truly believe will provide unconditional love and support, no matter how things play out, and be sure to share your news with those whom you trust.

It is time to put away the need to appear “perfect” by keeping certain things to ourselves. ¬†Here are three solid reasons you should share news of your pregnancy as soon as you conceive:

  1. You deserve support, love and guidance. ¬†Yes, even during your first trimester, if not ESPECIALLY during your first trimester. ¬†I prefer to meet clients as early in pregnancy as possible, because the transformation of pregnancy begins the instant you know that you are carrying life. ¬†The influence of a healthy support system is insurmountable. ¬†The statistics regarding having a doula show that it is incredibly helpful in reducing c-section rates, need for pain medication/epidural, use of episiotomy, reducing the odds of postpartum depression, and helping mothers to feel good about their birthing experiences, but the reality is that having support far before labor begins is even more helpful and transformative. ¬†Pregnancy brings through us new, unknown parts of ourselves and opportunities to grow. ¬†Each pregnancy is different, just as each child is, and therefor, each pregnancy brings through us a different call to grow and transform–new symptoms, feelings/emotions, new ideas and insights, etc. ¬†The first trimester is often a rough time; where the mother is accepting new life into her current world, her body is changing rapidly to accommodate and grow a healthy baby often bringing with it lovely side effects, and she is often balancing other children, work, and life events while these things take place. ¬†It makes a lot of sense to say that women in their first trimester absolutely should share their pregnancy with loved ones who can lend a hand (outside of their partner), and professionals who can make the transition easier. ¬†Being pregnant doesn’t start¬†three months after conception, it begins immediately, and so should your support.
  2. In the event of a miscarriage, you will have a support system that you can depend on, ready to help you begin your healing process, and everyone (even children) can learn through your experience. ¬†As I mentioned earlier, I witnessed this firsthand early on in my career, and I firmly believe that it is imperative to have more than your partner as a support system during such a time. ¬†Everyone grieves differently. ¬†In the case of a miscarriage, the father/partner is typically hurting just as much as the mother, and the both of them need unique support to honor their healing processes. ¬†By allowing people whom you trust to be a part of this experience, you are allowing yourself to be loved, supported and to begin to heal immediately. ¬†Family, friends and your children will truly benefit from being a part of this sort of experience. ¬†Let’s face it, life does not always go as planned, and allowing your experiences of that to be shared in order to help others is truly a wonderful gift. ¬†Children who are informed about the realities of life (and death) thrive when the same sort of things happen to them, and others will, too. ¬†Choose what feels best for you, but don’t be afraid to share your REALITY with others.
  3. It is just as important to discuss the “hard” parts of life as it is to discuss the “good” stuff. ¬†Why have we decided that there is a level of safety in what we share? ¬†We think that we must portray ourselves as superhumans who are always okay, when in reality we all have “ups and downs” and they all make us who we are. ¬†By sharing our “dark” times, we help others through theirs, and that is just as important as being present for the “light”. ¬†Sometimes the first trimester SUCKS– you’re tired, you cry about everything, you can’t seem to stop puking your brains out, and it is perfectly normal and okay to share that in order to gain insight or simply to “get it out” and help you cope. ¬†Our culture has created an unrealistic idea that hiding things, sugarcoating and lying to try and make things look different than they are is normal and such behavior is often encouraged, however it is actually destructive and prevents growth and happiness to do so. ¬†If we want to live in a great world, we have to create it. ¬†Part of life is that sometimes things don’t go as planned, in some cases we would even deem our experiences as “awful”, but if we look at those “awful” experiences, they also helped to create who we are now, helped us learn new solutions to hardship, and to see with a larger lens, learning that things are never as “bad” as they seem. ¬†I know personally that my darkest times have truly been the most transformative, and by experiencing and overcoming them I am in turn able to help many others through their darkness. ¬†All of our experiences are important and none of them are shameful or “bad” until we deem them to be. ¬†Choose to allow yourself to experience and discuss ALL parts of your journey through pregnancy and life, and notice the relief and empowerment you feel to grow through ALL of it.

It is time to let go of the fear culture we have been raised in and rise up into a culture of sharing, and lovingly supporting one another. ¬†We fear what others (or ourselves) may think or say or that we may be judged if things go differently than the planned “ideal”, but our true power comes from OWNING all parts of our experiences and in turn teaching others to own theirs. ¬†Through empowering ourselves to share, be honest and clear, we also empower others. ¬†We are not alone in our bold endeavors, every time that we step away from fear and into love, we teach others that it is safe to do so. ¬†Step into love with your pregnancy. ¬†Share it with your support system as soon as YOU feel you’d like to– regardless of any outcome. ¬†Suppressing our experiences doesn’t help us to grow, it puts a heavy damper on our abilities to feel good, and we aren’t able to experience all parts of our lives. ¬†We are not saving anyone by lying or keeping things in. ¬†Nor do we need to try to “save” others or ourselves. ¬†We expand suffering when we don’t honor ourselves, so the answer is to surrender the old belief that there’s anything to be afraid of, and to step into the empowering truth that ALL experiences contribute to the whole, and by honoring that, we live peacefully with ourselves. ¬†Being pregnant begins the instant that you conceive, so honor your inclinations to share as early on as you feel and to enlist loving support and help through the TOTAL experience. ¬†Be sure to choose who you share with wisely (especially if you want to avoid unnecessary input or commentary), but SHARE. ¬†Be bold, and honor what feels best to you!

 

If you or someone you know is interested in learning more about having a wonderful pregnancy, labor and birthing experience in Denver, Co., please visit http://www.birthpurpose.com, send an email to muriel@birthpurpose.com or fill out the form on the “contact” page here on WordPress. ¬†What have your experiences with sharing your pregnancy been? ¬†How early did you choose to have support? ¬†Share your stories in the comments! ¬†Thank you so much for reading. ¬†Love, Muriel.

 

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